I’m sure you have heard the phrase many credit Albert Einstein with saying, “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results”. I know at times this has been true in my own life, and I bet many of you can relate. Whether it’s trying to be more productive, yet still watching hours of Netflix a week, or trying to lose weight while still frequenting McDonald’s. Changing lifelong patterns is hard. Like really hard.
Often times we can go through these ups and downs where we have moments of motivation and go for a week straight staying on task, only to have a friends birthday BBQ derail you. Unable to say no to the delicious juicy burger, or the cooler full of sugary drinks, or Frank’s moms’ famous potato salad. The healthy lifestyle you committed to goes out the window and you give in to the urges of your tummy.
Or perhaps you’ve committed to being more productive. You spend hours making a list of the things you can do, and decide that to be successful you need to stay off your phone. As many of you know it only takes one tiny thought, “Oh I’ll just quickly check to see how my favorite sports team did” or “I deserve a 2 minute break”. These thoughts can quickly lead to countless wasted minutes, taking you off task and away from your goals.
Setbacks are going to happen when trying to shift lifelong bad habits, but it is possible to train your body and brain to do what you want. As mentioned, when we try and make the effort to change, it can feel like a rollercoaster. It’s one step forward two steps back. We do well for a bit then fall off the wagon. This can be discouraging!
So what is the secret? How are you going to get over that hump?
By taking stock. Kind of like a company taking inventory, it means examining your life. We are often so busy that when we try to quickly change our habits without seriously dissecting our lives and getting to the root of the issue, the change will never be long-lasting. This is why coaching is so beneficial. Coaches are able to ask the hard questions that you might not have thought of or were not willing to ask yourself.
To try it for yourself do this…
- Give yourself at least 15 min alone.
- Write down the issues that you have struggled with. (Body Image/Health & Wellness, Career Advancement, Temper, Relationships, etc)
- Maybe for the sake of time pick one of the issues and just sit with it. Try and think of the first time this became important to you. What was happening in your life? What were those around you saying? What were your personal thoughts about it at the time? Work your way through your life specifically focusing on what was going on in you and around you with regards to this issue.
- Once you have done that, you should have a clear picture as to why it has been such a major theme in your life. Maybe there was one specific massive incident early on that has been affecting you. Regardless, the idea here is that you are clear on what has happened so now you can become grounded and clear on what you want that part of your life to look like currently. With this new clarity, you will be able to stay grounded in your deeper reason for your desired change. Go ahead, give it a try!
If this has sparked a fire in you to finally take action and make a positive change, but want some help to get there, please reach out! I, Brad have been there and would love to walk alongside you as you make this commitment for positive change. Email email@example.com to schedule your consultation session now!