It is now April 8. How’s your New Year’s resolution going? Maybe you’re not the type to make New Year’s resolutions. Many, however, are. Many also fail to keep those resolutions. In an article for Forbes.com, Dan Diamond points out that an estimated 40% of Americans make New Year’s resolutions and a staggering 92% do not follow through. In addition, many fall into the trap of participating in the “next big thing.” Whether it is the Keto Diet, Intermittent Fasting, HIIT training or Yoga, you may find yourself in a never-ending cycle of, “Ok, I’m gonna do this” and, “Man this is just too hard.” Do you fall into that category? Ever wonder why that is or what you can do to overcome the constant failing? While I may not have the golden ticket, I have the next best thing – the ideas and thoughts about experts in the field of accomplishing goals and creating healthy habits. The rest of the blog will be a quick snapshot of the ideas and concepts that leaders in these fields have talked about. Here we go…
Tony Robbins: Tony says that sticking to a goal is 20% strategy and 80% psychology. He says that “Psychology either makes or breaks you.” One of the concepts Tony talks about is “loss aversion.” This says that we can more easily recall a negative experience than a positive one, and that we have a tendency to let these experiences shape our future. To beat this Tony recommends writing out in advance and predicting what bumps in the road we might foresee. It is easier to stay on our path of exercise if we know in advance what will be pulling us away.
Gretchen Rubin: In her book The Four Tendencies, Gretchen outlines four personality types and their proclivities when it comes to forming habits. The four tendencies (Questioner, Obliger, Rebel, Upholder) each approach goals and habits differently. According to Gretchen a vast majority of us are Obligers, who she says often are so focused on meeting the needs of others that we have a hard time taking time for ourselves. If this is you, Gretchen says that you “must have outer accountability to meet inner expectations.” She gives examples like if you want to read more, join a book club, or if you want to exercise more, join a class or find a workout buddy.
Mel Robbins: Author of the popular book The 5 second rule, Mel says that “Assuming that you can achieve your goals based on willpower alone will set you up for failure.” One of the reasons she says this happens is because of “decision fatigue.” This is the concept that you only have so much willpower to “power” you through the day. Think of it like a tank of gas for your car. Once your tank hits “E” you have nothing left to resist that piece of pie or that beer, or that next show on Netflix. Mel has multiple suggestions for how to overcome this but for simplicity’s sake we will focus on one, the five second rule. According to this rule, Mel says, “If you have an instinct to act on a goal, you must physically move within 5 seconds or your brain will kill it.” By kill it she means you will come up with a hundred reasons on why you don’t need to go to the gym or stick with your diet. By physically moving and taking action you bypass the negative thoughts in your head!
Given that there have been tips dispersed throughout the rest of the blog I will end with just one tip this week.
Hire a Coach: If this all seems to be daunting or you have tried many of these before and still failed, maybe it’s time to hire a coach. A coach will be able to give helpful advice as well as spur you on to greatness and discipline! If you’re wondering how that would work, click the “contact” button to find out!
— Brad Thiessen